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How to Keep Promises to Yourself

What do you do if you're the type of person who can't keep promises to yourself?

If you promise someone you'll do something, you usually have no problem keeping it. But the moment you promise yourself something, you just can't seem to keep it. After years of living like this, you might have even stopped trusting yourself.

The easiest solution would be to create social pressure and find someone to hold you accountable to your own promises. Since you have no problem keeping your promise to others, this should be an easy hack. Alternatively, create do-or-die situations where you are forced to keep your promise.

A better solution is to train yourself from the ground up and rebuild the trust you've lost in yourself. Start with the little things, promise yourself you'll shower before bed, and actually do it. It's not much, but it conditions your mind to start trusting your words again. It's a slow process, but eventually, you'll regain trust in yourself and get better at keeping your word.