From James Clear’s Newsletter, author Grace Bonney on how to get better at saying no:
“The biggest fear most of us have with learning to say no is that we will miss an opportunity. An opportunity that would have catapulted us to success, or that will never come again. And most of the time, that simply isn’t true.
I’ve found that the first part of learning to say no is learning to accept that offers and opportunities are merely an indication that you’re on the right path—not that you’ve arrived at a final destination you can never find again.
If someone is choosing you, it means you’re doing something right. And that is the biggest opportunity you can receive—the chance to recognize that your hard work is paying off. And if you continue to do good work, those opportunities will continue—and improve—over time.”http://www.designsponge.com/2012/03/biz-ladies-saying-no.html
This is definitely an interesting perspective. Don’t think of saying no as missing an opportunity. See opportunities as an indication that you’re doing something right and that someone out there is choosing you over someone else.